Book Review-How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

How often do you find yourself worrying about things you may or may not be able to control? How often do you feel victimized by your circumstances? Is there a way to channel these energies to help bring us better results? In Dale Carnegie’s work, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, he explains what actually causes us to worry, and how to stop it from effecting us to help produce more results in our lives.

One of the main points that Carnegie makes is that we eliminate worry by taking action and doing things that will help with our results long-term. This provides us with a peace of mind and gives us validation that we are on our way to achieving our goals. For example, if you are 50k in debt right now, what are some actions you can take today that will clean up the mess you are in?

I was once in a church service where the topic was about worry. The lady who was presenting to the audience just had a husband who passed away from cancer, then her grandson was also on the verge of death from the same disease. She would consistently worry about the situation going on in her life, but realized she could only do what she was able to do. She would go on to study the topic of worry, and presented us with the side effects of being afraid all the time. All I can tell you is, it is definitely not worth it.

Granted, if you find yourself worried right now, it is at least important to you. It is great to be concerned about how your relationship is going or how your performance is on the job. However, ask yourself if this is productive. If it is not, what are some ways we can eliminate that worry? Is it productive or even important? If not, then find a way to eliminate it. That is what this book is all about. Happy reading!


Book Review-Freakonomics by Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner

Do you ever wonder the real cause of a big change in our society, such as why crime rates fluctuate? Why do more people…or less people start having children than in the past? What is the true cause of professional athletes salaries skyrocketing in the past three decades? Throughout the book, Freakonomics, Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner advocate the hidden truth behind what makes big changes really happen. It is often the symptom of a series of small decisions made by those in power.

For example, Levitt and Dubner explain how there are hidden consequences towards everything we do. They bring the example of how crime has dropped immensely since the early 1990’s. This may be a symptom of the Roe vs. Wade case, since it is found that children from unexpected pregancies are more likely to end up as criminals.

Levitt and Dubner also compare different kinds of professions to each other in ways that many people may not think about. For example, teachers were compared to wrestlers in the way that they may cheat on state exams due to the incentives it may provide. That is what this book is all about: how everything is driven by incentives.

Is it really worth it to the real estate agent to trek more hassle to get 10k more for your house, if it only means an extra $150 in commission to them? How about a 25 cent penalty for every time you litter, versus a $100 fine for littering? If the incentive is large enough, we all find a way to follow through.

Freakonomics really makes you realize how there are hidden consequences to everything (positive and negative). For example, if you lost your job, then found a more fulfilling career because of that, wouldn’t losing your job actually become a positive experience? Did you ever experience a material downsizing in your life? If so, did you possibly notice you and your significant other became closer? That is what this book is all about: is the hidden effects behind the actions we take. Happy reading!

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